What does the Bible tell us about Sex?

August 22, 2018 | Didi Bacon

I have been reflecting on the first three chapters of Genesis. Genesis chapter one tells of how God created the world over seven days. On the sixth day, he created human beings. Here is how it goes,

Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.” So God created mankind in his image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.

God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.” Then God said, “I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it. They will be yours for food. And to all the beasts of the earth and all the birds in the sky and all the creatures that move along the ground—everything that has the breath of life in it—I give every green plant for food.” And it was so. Genesis 1:26-30 NIV


These first human beings were created with the God-given purpose to manage creation to produce life. To be fruitful (productive) and to multiple (create).


So we move on to chapter two. Genesis chapter two gives us a little more detail on how God set up these first humans towards their God-given purpose. The account goes that God first created a man. A man called Adam. He placed Adam in a garden called Eden. The garden was Adam’s training ground for learning how to walk with God being productive and creative. That which was learned in the garden would be applied to the larger work of all creation. It is here that we discover that Adam was lacking. No suitable helper could be found for Adam in his God-given purpose from amongst the animals. So God created and presented to Adam, a woman. Adam named the woman Eve. Eve became Adam’s wife. They form the relational partnership we call marriage. They are bonded together in oneness through the practices that make a marriage work - sex, fellowship, and companionship.


Now we come to chapter three of Genesis. In the garden of Eden Adam and Eve had access to every fruit and producing plant but one. God told them to not eat of the fruit of the tree of knowledge of good and evil. God said yes to every kind of good fruit in the garden. But one. And that was the place that they struggled. They struggled with trusting that God wanted the best for them. We all have a tree like that. God says yes to so much for us, but we have a problem with that one “no.” The most common being either our money or our romantic/sexual relationships. We struggle to buy into the idea that romantic/sexual love is not the be all and end all of happiness and fulfillment in life. We would rather trust ourselves in that area.


But here is the thing we Christians celebrate that God gave to us what we do not deserve in Jesus because of His love for us. This is the same God who gives us instruction in the Bible on sex. Instruction that we might struggle because we want to practice sex outside of the place where God created - marriage between a man and a woman. We can trust God with our eternal destiny, but we have a problem trusting Him when it comes to our sex life. Trusting that if we first love God with everything we have and we love our neighbor as we love ourself, then every other aspect of love will be in its right and best place. Friendship love. Family love. Romantic/sexual love.

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